When a child refuses school, it’s rarely about defiance. More often, it’s a sign of overwhelming anxiety, emotional distress, or fear that feels impossible to articulate.
What Is School Refusal?
School refusal is a pattern of difficulty attending or staying at school due to emotional distress – not misbehavior.
It may look like:
- Morning meltdowns
- Physical complaints before school
- Panic symptoms
- Emotional shutdown
- Frequent visits to the nurse
Why School Refusal Happens
Common underlying causes include:
- Anxiety or panic disorders
- Bullying or peer conflict
- Academic pressure
- Social stress
- Depression
For teens, fear of judgment or failure can be especially intense.
How Parents Can Respond Supportively
- Stay calm and curious, not punitive
- Avoid reinforcing avoidance when possible
- Collaborate with school staff
- Focus on gradual reintegration
- Seek professional guidance early
A child psychiatrist can help identify root causes and guide a plan that supports both emotional health and school engagement.
School refusal is a signal, not a setback. With compassion and the right support, children and teens can regain confidence and stability.


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