Many young children struggle with saying goodbye – but when distress is intense, persistent, or interfering with school and daily life, it may be separation anxiety. Understanding the difference between typical attachment and clinical anxiety helps parents respond with confidence and compassion.
What Separation Anxiety Looks Like
Common signs include:
- Extreme distress at drop-off
- Fear something bad will happen to a parent
- Refusing sleepovers or school
- Physical complaints (stomachaches, headaches)
- Nighttime fears or needing constant reassurance
Why Separation Anxiety Happens
Separation anxiety can be linked to:
- Developmental stage
- Major life transitions
- Stressful events or illness
- Temperament and sensitivity
- Family anxiety patterns
How Parents Can Help
- Keep goodbyes calm and predictable
- Avoid “sneaking out”
- Validate feelings without reinforcing fear
- Build small, gradual separations
- Praise brave behavior
A child psychiatrist can help when anxiety persists, worsens, or limits school or sleep.
Separation anxiety is not weakness; it’s a child asking for safety, reassurance, and support.
With the right guidance, children learn to separate with confidence.
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