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In the difficult journey that is parenting, one of the most effective means through which one can nurture a healthy self-esteem in their children, is to steer away from comparison with others.

Having been a child myself, and now in the field I am in, this is not just anecdotal wisdom I share.

A meta-analysis that was published in the “ Journal of Child and Family Studies” has shown that children are more likely to develop feelings of inadequacy and overall self perception if subjected to constant or even frequent comparisons to others (even other family members).

Moreover, constant comparisons set potential unrealistic expectations for children that if unmet, can induce anxiety, depression, and most importantly lead to a distorted sense of self; where they only feel valued if they meet the “criteria” set by others.

Rather than honing on these comparisons, parents can rather make an emphasis on their own children’s accomplishments, as well as strengths, even if outside the scope of the parents’ desires.

In fact, research that was conducted by Legette and Dweck has displayed the importance of praise from parents. By being able to recognize their goals, efforts and achievements, parents are then much more able and likely, to build a self perception that is shrouded in the idea of personal growth.

Lastly, creating a safe space for children to express their emotions, as well as feelings is extremely crucial. Research by Morris Et Al (2020) has shown by creating a space that allows one’s children to communicate their thoughts and ideas without potential consequence, allows them to navigate societal pressures and lets children build emotional resilience.

Overall, constant comparisons can have detrimental effects on a child’s psyche, and parents can contribute to building a foundation of confidence and self love, that will benefit their children in the long run by reducing the amount of external comparisons as well as creating a safe/open space for honest communication.

Blog Co-Authored By:

Shardil Ahmad, Medical Student, St. George’s Medical School 2025

References:

Johnson, J. L., et al. (2019). The Effects of Parental Comparisons on Children’s Feelings of Worth. Journal of Child and Family Studies.
Dweck, C. S., & Leggett, E. L. (1988). A Social-Cognitive Approach to Motivation and Personality. Psychological Review.
Morris, A. S., et al. (2020). Family Communication Patterns and the Development of Self-Esteem in Adolescents. Journal of Youth and Adolescence.

The COVID-19 pandemic has triggered dramatic changes throughout everyday life — and in the medical community as well. Not only are providers across the country postponing elective procedures, but many are also encouraging people to avoid in-office appointments to reduce their risk of exposure to this highly contagious coronavirus.

But what do you do if you still need health care? Fortunately, Telehealth can help.

How Telehealth works

Telehealth — or telemedicine — is a healthcare solution that allows you to meet with your doctor virtually instead of going to the office. Our 100% HIPAA-compliant system uses a two-way, high definition video, so we can talk face-to-face as if we’re in the same room together.

With Telehealth, you can also:

• Submit your medication list, allergies, ID cards, and medical history in advance
• Chat or share photos describing your symptoms
• Have prescriptions electronically sent to your pharmacy
• Securely pay online for your virtual visit

This streamlined approach originally evolved to help expand medical care to men, women, and children living in remote areas. Today, 76% of hospitals use Telehealth technology, and US employers could save as much as $6 billion a year by making telemedicine technology available to their employees. But the advantages of Telehealth go far beyond financial savings.

The benefits of telemedicine

Whether you live close to your doctor or in a rural area, you probably know firsthand that even a routine visit involves wait times of 18 minutes or longer — and that doesn’t even include the time you spend getting there. Telehealth technology eliminates that.

By connecting to your doctor in a virtual setting, you can expect to:

• Miss less time at work
• Have fewer disruptions with any child or elder care responsibilities
• Eliminate the time or travel expenses associated with your office visit
• Receive quality health care faster
• Reduce subjecting yourself and others to a contagious illness

At the same time, you also reduce your risk of exposure to contagious illnesses, like the common cold, flu, and COVID-19.

Telemedicine is also available to patients of all ages, including children, older adults, and those in vulnerable health. That makes it an ideal healthcare solution for everyone, especially when someone can no longer leave their home safely but still requires medical attention.

What to expect during a Telehealth appointment

Telemedicine technology has never been easier to use, simply:

• Download our app to your tablet, computer, or phone
• Request an appointment through our Telehealth portal
• Fill out the registration forms included in our calendar invite
• Follow the link in your calendar invite to open your video-chat to start your appointment

You can also upload photos, if needed, to help us diagnose your symptoms.

For more information on telemedicine or to schedule your virtual visit, contact us by calling or requesting your Telehealth appointment online today.

Teaching humility to our children is an aspect I believe is crucial in their upbringing. It is important for parents to instill in their kids the values of empathy, understanding, and kindness towards others, regardless of their circumstances or appearance. Here are a few suggestions on how parents can teach their children humility:

1. Lead by example: Children learn more from observing their parents’ behavior than from any lectures. Show humility in your own actions and demonstrate empathy towards others. Let your children see you helping those in need or treating everyone with respect and kindness.
2. Encourage gratitude: Teach your children to be grateful for what they have and to appreciate the blessings in their lives. Help them understand that material possessions do not define their worth and that there are others who may be less fortunate.
3. Volunteer together: Engage your children in volunteer work or community service activities. By actively participating in helping those in need, they will develop a greater understanding of different realities and be more empathetic towards others.
4. Teach empathy: Encourage your children to put themselves in other people’s shoes and consider how their actions or words may affect others. Help them understand that everyone deserves respect and that judging others based on their appearance is unfair.
5. Discuss the importance of character: Emphasize the significance of qualities such as kindness, integrity, and compassion over material possessions. Help your children understand that these traits are what truly define a person’s worth.
6. Teach financial responsibility: Teach your children about the value of money and how to manage it responsibly. This includes understanding the difference between necessities and luxuries and making wise choices when it comes to spending.
7. Foster a sense of community: Encourage your children to engage with people from different backgrounds and cultures. This will help broaden their perspective and develop a greater appreciation for diversity.

Remember, teaching humility is an ongoing process that requires consistent reinforcement and modeling. By instilling these values in our children, we can help create a more compassionate and understanding society.

In today’s challenging times, it has become increasingly important for parents to address difficult topics with their children while maintaining a safe and nurturing environment. One such topic is active shooter drills at school. Although necessary for safety preparedness, discussing these drills with children requires sensitivity to avoid causing fear or anxiety. This post aims to provide parents with valuable insights and practical tips to approach this conversation calmly and effectively.

1. Understand their age and maturity level:

The very first step in discussing active shooter drills is to consider the age and maturity level of your child. Younger children may struggle to grasp the concept of such drills, while older ones may require more in-depth explanations. Tailor your approach accordingly to ensure your child understands the information without feeling overwhelmed.

2. Start the conversation:

Initiate the conversation by asking your children what they already know or have heard about active shooter drills. This creates an open dialogue and allows parents to correct any misconceptions. Focus on creating a safe space for them to ask questions and express their feelings without judgment.

3. Use age-appropriate language:

When explaining active shooter drills, make sure your language is appropriate for your child’s age. Stick to simple explanations devoid of graphic details, emphasizing that the drills are part of a safety routine. Assure them that the teachers and other adults are trained to protect them in emergencies and reinforce the importance of following instructions during drills.

4. Validate emotions:

Acknowledge and validate any fears or concerns your child expresses. It is natural for children to feel anxious or scared about active shooter drills or the topic in general. Assure them that their feelings are valid and that you are always there to support and protect them. Reiterate that these drills are a precautionary measure to keep everyone safe.

5. Promose empowerment and resilience:

The conversation should also focus on empowering your child with resilience. Discuss emergency procedures and make sure they know their role in staying safe during drills. Teach them easy-to-remember safety tips, such as finding a safe place to hide or staying quiet. Reassure them that practicing these drills helps everyone be more prepared for emergencies, ensuring their safety.

Discussing active shooter drills with your children is undoubtedly challenging; however, it is a paramount responsibility in today’s world. By utilizing age-appropriate language, providing reassurance, and promoting empowerment, parents can effectively address this topic while minimizing stress and anxiety. Remember, open and honest communication coupled with a loving and supportive environment can empower children to navigate emergency situations with preparedness and resilience.

“Faith can move mountains” is often used to emphasize the power of belief or certainty in overcoming challenges. In the context of mental health, various studies and anecdotal evidence suggest that faith or spirituality can indeed play a role in easing symptoms of anxiety and depression for some individuals. Here’s how:

1. Sense of Community and Support: Many faith-based communities provide a strong sense of belonging and support. This social aspect can be particularly beneficial for individuals facing mental health challenges, as it offers a network of understanding and support.
2. Coping Mechanism: Faith can offer a framework for understanding and coping with life’s challenges. It can provide a sense of hope, purpose, and meaning, which can be particularly comforting during difficult times, potentially alleviating feelings of anxiety and depression.
3. Meditative and Reflective Practices: Many religious and spiritual practices involve meditation, prayer, or reflection, which can be calming and therapeutic. These practices can help in managing stress and anxiety, fostering a sense of peace and well-being.
4. Moral and Ethical Guidance: Faith often provides a set of moral and ethical guidelines that can help individuals make sense of their experiences and choices. This can lead to a greater sense of control and direction, reducing feelings of anxiety and helplessness.
5. Positive Psychological Effects: Studies have shown that engaging in spiritual practices can have positive effects on mental health, including increased optimism, better mood regulation, and greater overall well-being.

It’s important to note, however, that the relationship between faith and mental health can vary greatly from person to person. While some may find great comfort and benefit in their spiritual beliefs and practices, others might not experience the same effect. It is important to note that faith, should not be seen as a substitute for professional mental health treatment when it is needed. It can, however, be an added valuable component of a holistic approach to mental health care and well-being.

If you aren’t certain, please reach out for help and together, with the support of a mental healthcare provider, your path can become more clear.

Study mentioned above can be found here.
The above study shared on the APA LinkedIn.

In every neighborhood and community worldwide, parents strive to create safe, loving environments for their children. Occasionally, life reveals its surprises, and the recent revelation of a beloved child’s sexual orientation is one such moment that can stir deep emotions. When a fellow parent discovers their child is gay, it’s a significant and often challenging crossroads. As friends, our instinct is to offer support, yet finding the right approach can sometimes be daunting. Fortunately, there are meaningful and heartfelt ways to be that pillar of strength for a friend in need.

First and foremost, empathy is your greatest ally in these moments. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine the mixed feelings they might be experiencing. This period is often fraught with confusion, elation, concern, and a myriad of other emotions. Offering a listening ear can be profoundly therapeutic. Sometimes, parents just need someone to hear them out without judgment, advice, or interruption. A simple statement like, “I’m here for you no matter what,” can be a balm to their anxious heart.

Moreover, understanding the journey they are about to embark on is crucial. Educate yourself about what it means to have a gay child in today’s society. There are countless resources available—books, online articles, support groups—that provide valuable insights into the experiences of LGBTQ+ youths and their families. By becoming informed, you’ll be better prepared to offer informed, compassionate support.

Encouraging open communication is equally important. Let them know it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling – be it pride, worry, or confusion. Reassure them that their emotions are valid and that it’s okay to take things one step at a time. Remind them that love and understanding are the foundations of navigating this new chapter with their child.

Furthermore, advocate for acceptance within your shared community. Sometimes, a parent might fear societal judgment or stigma more than anything else. In such cases, lending your voice to promote inclusivity and acceptance can make a world of difference. It signals that they are not alone and that your community stands with them, creating a network of support and love.
Lastly, celebrate with them. Coming out is a monumental step for their child, and it symbolizes courage and honesty. By celebrating this truth, you reinforce the beauty and love inherent in the revelation. Your unwavering support can turn a period of uncertainty into a time of proud affirmations and strengthened bonds.

In every story shared, in every tear and smile, remember that being there for a friend in times of transition binds our communities closer. Your kindness and support during their journey affirm that love, indeed, is the most powerful force we share. So, let’s rise together, ensuring that no parent—and certainly no child—ever feels alone on this path of discovery and acceptance.

A profound and complex aspect of the medical profession- where the ethos of care for others often overshadows self-care and self-advocacy. This contrast y arises from various factors:

1. Cultural and Professional Expectations: The medical profession is often seen as a vocation, emphasizing self-sacrifice and selflessness. Physicians are expected to prioritize patient care above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own well-being.
   This cultural norm can create a mindset where advocating for personal benefits or needs feels contradictory to the professional rationale.
2. Training and Conditioning: Medical training focuses intensely on patient care, often in high-stress, high-stakes environments. This can condition physicians to deprioritize their own needs, as the immediate focus is always on the patient. Over time, this mindset can become deeply ingrained further enforcing the lack of self-care.
3. Perception of Self-Advocacy as Selfishness: Many physicians worry that negotiating for better compensation or work conditions might be perceived as selfish or greedy, especially when contrasted with the noble image of a “self-sacrificing” doctor.
4. Lack of Training in Negotiation and Self-Advocacy: Medical education typically does not include training in negotiation and self-advocacy skills. This lack of training can leave physicians feeling unprepared and uncomfortable when it comes to contract negotiations and personal advocacy.
5. Fear of Repercussions: There can be a fear that advocating for oneself might lead to negative judgments or repercussions in a profession that often values resignation and endurance.
6. Empathy and Compassion Fatigue: Physicians are trained and naturally inclined to empathize with their patients. This constant outpouring of empathy, especially in emotionally draining situations, can lead to compassion fatigue, where there’s little emotional energy left to address one’s own needs.
7. Guilt and Responsibility: Physicians often carry a deep sense of responsibility for their patients’ well-being. This can lead to feelings of guilt when prioritizing their own needs, as it might seem like a diversion from their duty to care for others.
8. Difficulty in Setting Boundaries: The intense demands of the medical profession often blur the lines between personal and professional life. Many physicians find it challenging to set boundaries that protect their personal time and well-being.

To address these challenges, it’s important for medical professionals to recognize the value of self-care and self-advocacy as integral to their overall effectiveness and longevity in their careers. Building a support network, seeking mentorship, engaging in open discussions about these issues, and developing negotiation skills can be vital steps in changing this dynamic. Remember, taking care of oneself is not just beneficial on a personal level; it ultimately enhances the capacity to provide the best care for patients.

The holiday season can be a joyous and magical time for families, but let’s be real— it can also be incredibly stressful, especially when you have kids to manage. From the hustle and bustle of holiday shopping and events to the inevitable sugar highs from all the treats, it’s no wonder many parents feel like they are barely surviving the holidays and worry they are going to lose it. But fear not! With a few
simple strategies, you can not only survive the holidays with your kids but actually enjoy the season with peace and harmony.

One key strategy for surviving the holidays with kids is to set realistic expectations. It’s easy to get caught up in the picture-perfect image of the holidays, but the truth is, things may not always go as planned. Embrace the chaos and be flexible with your plans. This will help reduce stress and allow you to focus on the moments that truly matter.

Another important tip is to prioritize self-care. It’s easy for parents to neglect their own well-being during the holidays, but taking care of yourself is crucial for maintaining peace and harmony. Make sure to carve out time for relaxation and self-care, whether it’s a solo walk in the park, a bubble bath, or simply taking a few moments to yourself each day.

In addition, it’s helpful to involve your kids in the holiday preparations. Not only does this provide them with a sense of ownership and responsibility, but it also creates lasting memories for the whole family. Whether it’s decorating the tree, baking cookies, or wrapping presents, getting the kids involved can make the holidays feel less like a burden and more like a team effort.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to say no. With so many social obligations during the holidays, it can be overwhelming trying to please everyone. Remember that it’s okay to decline invitations or limit the number of events you attend. Prioritize your family’s well-being and cherish the time spent together.

By setting realistic expectations, prioritizing self-care, involving your kids, and learning to say no, you can not only survive the holidays with your kids but also create meaningful and peaceful memories that will last a lifetime. So take a deep breath, embrace the chaos, and enjoy the magic of the season. You’ve got this!

As the summer heats up, parents of children with sensory processing disorder or autism spectrum disorder may feel apprehensive about navigating loud celebrations, such as the upcoming 4th of July festivities. This can be a challenging time for both parents and children but with some simple strategies in place, it is possible to create a happy and healthy experience for everyone.

One key technique is to create a quiet space at the event. This could be a tent, a designated room, or even a quiet corner outside. Setting aside a quiet space can help overstimulated children feel more grounded and safe. It’s also important to bring along sensory tools, toys, noise-cancelling headphones, weighted blankets, or fidget toys. These can help children regulate their own sensory input, which can reduce stress and anxiety.

Another strategy is to maintain a routine as much as possible. If the child has a typical bedtime or mealtime, try to stick to this as much as possible. Also, make sure to bring along familiar foods and drinks that the child likes and is accustomed to. This can help the child feel more comfortable and in control, which can reduce the likelihood of behavior challenges.

Additionally, parents can use visual supports, like pictures or schedules, to help children understand what will happen at the event and when. This can reduce anxiety and help the child feel more prepared. On top of that, parents can share the schedule with other family members or friends as well, this helps everyone be on the same page and support the child together.

Finally, if the child does have a meltdown or a behavior challenge, remember to stay calm. Try not to get upset or angry, and instead, use gentle language and gestures to support the child. Take a break in the quiet space and try to soothe the child using familiar tools. This will help the child feel understood and supported, which can make a big difference in their overall experience.

By using these strategies, parents can help create a supportive and healthy environment for children with sensory processing disorder or autism spectrum disorder during loud celebrations such as the 4th of July. Remember to be patient, flexible, and supportive, and your child will have a much better chance of enjoying the festivities alongside everyone else.

Teaching children about inclusivity is an important and necessary task for parents, but it can sometimes feel daunting. How do you explain such a complex concept to young minds in a way that they can understand and embrace?

Inclusivity means including everyone, regardless of their background, abilities, or beliefs. It’s about treating others with kindness and respect, no matter how different they may be from us.

The first step in teaching children about inclusivity is to lead by example. Show them through your actions that you value diversity and inclusion. Encourage them to play with children from different cultural backgrounds, and teach them to embrace their differences rather than fear them.

One way to explain inclusivity to children is by using simple, relatable examples. You could explain that just like how they wouldn’t want to be left out of a game, it’s important not to leave others out. Help them understand that everyone deserves to feel included and valued.

You can also read books or watch movies that feature diverse characters and stories. This can help children understand that the world is made up of people from all walks of life, and that we should celebrate those differences rather than discriminate against them.

It’s important to talk openly with your children about inclusivity, especially when they witness discrimination or exclusion. Teach them that standing up for others and speaking out against unfair treatment is a powerful way to promote inclusivity.

Encourage your children to ask questions and express their thoughts and feelings about inclusivity. It’s okay if they don’t fully understand the concept at first; the most important thing is to foster open and honest conversations.

By teaching children about inclusivity, parents are helping to shape a future generation that values and respects diversity. It’s a crucial lesson that can make a positive impact, not only in their lives, but in the lives of others as well.